those strangers we thought we knew..!

There are times when u meet perfect strangers(from d opp sex) and find them being enormously similar to u and then the conversations almost always end in
day 1 "hey we have the same taste in music" .(followed by a hug)

day 2 "hey we have the same taste in books". (followed by a raised eyebrow look of admiration and approval)

day 3 " hey our opinions are also the same on most subjects".(After that statement comes a long gaze tht transforms into a crush) ..

o thank god the crush thing came in..i was beginning to feel u were twins who got separated in some kumbh mela, while your conversation on day 4 ended with the most important discovery that the two of you also have similar backgrounds( ur mind SCREAMIN hurrayY!! Now we can think marriage..lol)..(I say most likely the family backgrounds are similar bcoz we Indians have this amazin habit of sayin," o wow..!!..my family or my background is exactly the same as yours ! "....In wot sense the background is similar could vary from the caste being d same.. the native place being the same to the no. of family members being the same..the educational status or the financial status being the same...that's why most likely!..considering a million standards of judging similarity I'm sure we're all part of one big family.)

BUT could u jus be finding similarities to justify that instant chemistry?

after spending a considerable amount of time with them u realise u weren't that similar after all or may be the similarities jus dint matter that much..the interests are all still similar or same..choice of books..the music..the shows and the movies and the fact that both of u admire similar qualities in people.... but now the DIFFERENCES which are definitely smaller but finer and also more important begin to make their presence felt..(and that feels like a big deal coz its accompanied by lesser reasons to hug or hold hands or hold a gaze and lesser emotional and physical proximity gives a lot of time to the empty idol mind to imagine a disaster or a major mistake of misjudging someone) .. and here comes the blame game..

they told u they liked a mess..but they dint tell u they dislilked or detested anything unclean.

they might love watching movies but prefer moot research to movies..

they told u they loved being with friends but dint tell u they jus loved privacy or spending time with family a lil more

they might admire the same qualities in people that u do but for reasons entirely different from ur own.

after realising these differences or more importantly after realising that they are not so similar to you after all..what do u do?

stop being friends?start hating them?think it was a mistake?don't think about it at all?compromise?create a big mess so that they compromise?keep believing they'll finally start being like u?

or may be u just create or accept the inevitable distance that arises out of this realisation and don lose the trust and respect that u had for them coz at the end of the day u don't go and meet people and make friends on the condition that they'll all be ur alter egos in some way or the other..

u did like them..spend time with them.. so don't regret and don't lose faith in your choices and your actions and don't lose respect for them.

respect individuality and don expect them to understand you and your mental process let alone act and react to similar situations in a way u do

affection..lust....fun...companionship..chemistry..and even friendship and love can almost always last forever and be recreated in almost no time if only the foundation was built of faith in your actions and unwavering and undulating respect for them as individuals